There’s alot of talk about being planned, disciplined, sensible and efficient these days. On this blog I’ve even argued that to really do big things, we need to be laser-focused on those things. From doing the right things, to creating habits and being consistent and ordinary.
But in pursuit of our goals, I fear that we will be so focused on results that we will blow right past the things that actually matter.
- At your funeral, friends will not reminisce about the killer Power Point presentations you missed birthdays to create
- Your wife won’t lovingly recall how you said no to flowers because your cash-envelope system mandated that you sock that extra $10 away for the 401K.
- Nor will your grandkids marvel at your ability to multi-task as you send e-mails on your iPhone with one-hand and mindlessly flip the pages of their favorite book with the other.
I have just a few memories from my childhood that are crystal-clear, seems-like-it-was-yesterday type memories. One of them was a ski-trip my Dad took me on when I was 12.
I cherish that week because -
- If my dad wanted to be efficient he would of brought me AND my brother and gotten 2 for 1 on dad/son time
- If he wanted to stay on budget he would not pulled out a $20 to play Area 51 on arcade with me
- If he wanted to be productive he would of pushed me to ski more vertical feet, but instead cheered me on as I hiked a dinky jump on a side hill
- If he wanted to be responsible, he would of taught me a lesson when I balked at the ‘adult’ items on the upscale restaurant menu. Instead he asked the kitchen to cook me up some chicken fingers and fries.
Most of all, I cherish it because it didn’t make “sense” to take a 12-year old to an expensive lodge in some of the most epic ski terrain on earth. But he did anyway.
And wouldn’t you believe it! The lessons I learned aren’t what most of us fear when we live outside the lines. My takeaway wasn’t – “spend money you don’t have”, “don’t plan” and “be irresponsible”. Instead, I heard – work hard, bless people and live life with a little flavor.
QUESTION: Where have you gotten too rigid? What can you do to really start living?
- – -
Enjoy the post? Please ‘Share’ below.